Help meet 1

Help meet 1

In Gen 2:18'  God said, it is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him. so he created a companion,  help meet... Also in the latter part of verse 20 the bible says... But for adam, no suitable helper was found. 

Amplified Bible puts verse 18 this way: 
             Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient,satisfactory) that the
             man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, 
             complementary) for him. (Genesis 2:18 AMP)

Things to consider: 
1. Marriage  is God's idea.
 It is the manufacturer that brought that concept. In his usual manner as portrayed in the creation, after each day God appraises what he created and usually concluded that it was good. Although man as a creation was good, it is not good ( not sufficient, not satisfactory) that the man should be alone. 
2. Marriage was abut an help meet.
Now the Lord God said ... I will make him a helper meet (suitable,adapted, complementary) for him. (Genesis 2:18 AMP)

So for a man who wants to be married, what are you doing or planning that you need a help? One thing I have come to appreciate is that if a man does not realise he needs help, many times if you provide him with help, he does not appreciate it and usually waste, misuse or abuse it. Ditto for a woman.


For the woman who wants to get married, can you be a help to somebody? Are you planning to be a help meet or you are preparing to compete with your spose? Or are you looking for somebody to take care of you? Are you planning to increase the poor man's burden. How will it work when you can't even help yourself and you want to be help meet for somebody. Is that not courting a disaster? 
How do you plan to be help meet for him? Does it not suggest that we need to be prepared if we are going to be help meet for our spouses. The time to make such preparations is now. Before you are married, not after. This reminds me of a story I read in a marriage book. A fine and well padded Christian lady who does not like to go to work and have always wanted to get married, stay at home and look after kids so she could indulge her appetite. She initially did not find a suitor because she was overweight. She then decided to slim down, went to another city and got married to a well-to-do brother. Soon after she got what she wanted, she resigned her job, started indulging her appetite, adding extra fat. You could guess where that marriage is heading. This lady did not come to the man to help at all. She was just using him to meet her needs. It could be the other way round as well. 

A saying goes thus: 
                             man alone may be good, 
                 but it is not good for man to be alone.

 If you enjoy being alone and would not even want your spouse to encroach into that space, may be you should not get married yet. 

 How do we prepare ourselves for marriage in the light of this scripture? Watch out for more blogs.